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How to Get Your Dad to Stop Sending You Racist Emails. You’ve got problems, I’ve got advice. This advice isn’t sugar- coated—in fact, it’s sugar- free, and may even be a little bitter. Welcome to Tough Love. You’ve got problems, I’ve got advice. This advice isn’t sugar- coated—in fact, it’s sugar- free, and…Read more Read. This week we have a son who doesn’t know how to deal with his father’s often- racist email chains.

Keep in mind, I’m not a therapist or any other kind of health professional—just a guy who’s willing to tell it like it is. I simply want to give you the tools you need to enrich your damn lives. If for whatever reason you don’t like my advice, feel free to file a formal complaint here. Now then, let’s get on with it. With the exception of my brother, all of my family is of the “brainwashed by Fox News” ilk. I am a giant bleeding heart liberal. I also have a relationship with all of them that could best be described as “cordial” and I’ve long since given up hoping to improve that.

We’re just very different people and I’ve made my peace with that. I keep my interaction with them on social media to a minimum in the name of keeping the peace. Several years ago I went through a round of eye roll- inducing chain mail forwards from my uncle who is my dad’s older brother, which I began responding to with links from Snopes or other sources disproving whatever idiocy was forwarded to him.

My uncle is a bully and didn’t like when I did this and whined endlessly about it, but it eventually had the desired effect of getting me removed from his email forwards. Unfortunately, My uncle is also a pretty significant influence on my dad. Dad’s always been relatively conservative but in the last few years he’s tacked hard to the right in a pretty disappointing and disgusting fashion. Right now I largely ignore the emails, though I do occasionally respond with a link debunking whatever was in it depending on how egregiously stupid it was.

My question is, should I continue this current behavior or should I become more aggressive in trying to deter him from sending them to me? Staying silent feels shitty but I’m under no illusions of dad having an epiphany and realizing “HEY BEING A RACIST PIECE OF SHIT ISN’T FOR ME!” And while my relationship with my parents is lukewarm at best, I don’t particularly want it to deteriorate. It feels like little potential upside with a lot of potential downside of confronting him about it, but it’s still tempting to try. Thanks,Not So Fortunate Son. Hey Not So Fortunate Son: Silence isn’t the answer here, but you’re right, you shouldn’t be under any illusion that you can change your dad’s mind. I’m sure he’s the “set in his ways” type.

You’re a grown man with your own opinions of the world, and it seems like your political discussions are creating a rift that will only continue to grow as time goes on. You’re a little disappointed in your conservative, racist father.

He’s a little disappointed in his bleeding heart liberal son. But that doesn’t mean you can’t still maintain a cordial—as you put it—relationship with him. Who knows? You might even be able to mend things a bit too. Might. How? First, stop firing back.

Don’t take the bait. Your responses are just feeding the fire, Not so Fortunate Son. Then, if you can’t stand watching those forwards show up in your inbox, tell him to please stop sending you those emails! You do not owe your father any email fealty.

Don’t just shoot off an angry email in response, though. Give your request in person, or at least on the phone. He needs to know you’re serious about it and not just being a whiny snowflake. It’s time to be brave and stand up for yourself, kid.

When he asks why or gives you shit about it—and this is vital—be very serious and tell him it’s because you’re family and you love him, but you feel like this behavior is creating a gap in your relationship and you don’t want it to get any wider than you feel it already is. He needs to know. He might be on the other end of the spectrum, but that doesn’t mean he can’t be somewhat understanding when it comes to his own kin. Tell him you’d be happy to receive an email, call, or text from him as long as it’s not about politics. Tell him you’d rather talk about the good ol’ days (if there were any), sports, hunting, cars, movies, anything else.

Or plan a father- son activity to reconnect and give both of you a chance to understand each other a bit better. You must escape the political news tug of war! Focus on what you like about your father, if anything, and go from there. Email chains are never a good way to really communicate or understand someone, so don’t let that become the focus of your relationship. If that doesn’t work, and he doesn’t stop, block his emails—then tell him you did. You gotta’ do what’s right for you and your happiness, but he still needs to know.

And this process should’t be one final attack, a coup de grâce—no, you’re bowing out. You’re different people—you’ve made your peace with that—so let him think he’s won and move on. Don’t poke the bear, let him eat, and move on to greener pastures. Hopefully one where you and your dad can have a catch and focus on finding some less- racist middle ground.

Every family has that one relative that can’t stop forcing their controversial political stances…Read more Read. That’s it for this week, but I still have plenty of blunt, honest advice bottled up inside. Tell me, what’s troubling you? Is work getting you down? Are you having problems with a friend or a coworker? Is your love life going through a rough patch? Do you just feel lost in life, like you have no direction?

Tell me, and maybe I can help. I probably won’t make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, but sometimes what you need is some tough love. Ask away in the comments below, or email me at the address you see at the bottom of the page (please include “ADVICE” in the subject line). Or tweet at me with #Tough. Love! Also, DO NOT EMAIL ME IF YOU DON’T WANT YOUR REQUEST FEATURED. I do not have time to respond to everyone just for funsies. Til next time, figure things out for yourself.

What to Do When You've Outgrown Your Job. You might think you can still do their job well if you’ve outgrown it, but a recent study from Florida Atlantic University showed that, in fact, if it’s time to move on and you’ve stayed put, you might start to suck at your job. This might range from coming in late or leaving early to theft or bullying co- workers. The more overqualified an employee feels, the more likely they are to engage in counterproductive behaviors that impair the effective functioning of organizations.. While your performance might not slip into the realm of theft or bullying your colleagues, feeling like your role no longer suits you can affect your mindset and attitude.

If you’re feeling overqualified, here’s what to do. Decide If Things Can Change. Even if you feel you’ve hit a dead end when it comes to career growth, you don’t necessarily have to leave your job. Alison Green, of Ask a Manager, explains that if you’re unhappy at work, you should talk to your manager about it—if you think things can be fixed and if you would stay if they were to change. You have to decide for yourself what that means. Do you need a percentage of your responsibilities and projects to become more challenging? Do you want to focus on just one new skill?

If you decide that either things aren’t able to change or that you wouldn’t stay if they did, finding a new job may be your next move. Even so, talk to your manager first worth—they may be able to suggest changes you thought weren’t possible. Look for Internal Opportunities.

If you can work with your manager to change the parameters of your job, start with seeing how you can expand your role, even temporarily. On NPR’s podcast Hidden Brain, Amy Wrzesniewski, Professor of Organizational Behavior at Yale, describes how you can use “job crafting” to make your current role more meaningful. That can certainly happen, where people can stumble into something and realize, “This is what I would do even if I hit the lottery,” versus, “How is it I can craft the boundaries of this job [..] in such a way that I can come to experience it perhaps as something that is meaningful [as] potentially a calling could be.”The second situation she describes is one where you can shape your job, and ultimately your career, into work that motivates you. Everyone’s organization is different, so you’ll know the best way to look for opportunities, but here’s a list of potential ones to get you started.

Take something off someone else’s plate: If there’s something that your boss or a team mate has to do often, but that seems boring for them, offer to take it over. This gives you the chance to learn something new and gives them more bandwidth to focus on other work. Get an inside view: Tasks like helping prepare meeting slides or agendas, taking notes for your boss at meeting, or helping to document processes or resources are mundane, but they give you a peek into how higher ups make decisions. Support another team: You’ll want to clear this with your manager first, but supporting another team on a project can expose you to new skills, work, or ways of thinking. Fill a gap where resources are low: Offer to take on projects or tasks that are falling by the wayside because there aren’t enough resources to sustain them. You’ll get to do something different and take ownership while helping your department and company. If you’re a superstar employee, there’s a good chance you have a target on your back.

A recent…Read more Read. Start Job Searching for a Stretch Role. Not every manager or company will be willing to shift your job description or offer internal opportunities to expand your role. If that’s the case for you, your best options may be to look for a new job.

Search for roles that will be a stretch and give you something to work towards—you don’t want to end up feeling like you’ve outgrown your job again in a short time. Hunting for a new job invariably means hitting up search sites, tapping your network, and beefing…Read more Read.